Many sensitive people report they often tend to say more than they want, or more than the listener was ready to hear.
If you are aware you have this tendency, here are a few tips to help you manage it:
Pause and reflect: Every time you catch yourself adding too many details or a personal story in a conversation with someone, ask yourself “is this detail really relevant for the main purpose of my message?”
Often our mind is quick in creating associations or ideas. We invite you to pause for a second and resist the urge when you can. Use that silent gap to decide if the detail at stake is really relevant for the purpose of your message.
In doubt, leave it out – you can add this detail later, if needed.
Focusing on the most important information and learning to leave details aside ensures your communication aligns better and more efficiently with your intentions. It also helps in avoiding sharing too much information you might regret later.
Know your limits: There are some topics that are more delicate for each of us. Identifying them and Knowing your limits about what we wish to share or not, helps us walk into social contexts more prepared. If you do not wish to discuss your finances, your health, your choices, or any other topic that is meaningful to you, you simply do not have to.
Journaling: You can monitor your progress with this by journaling about how you feel about your recent conversations, and the amount of information you shared. Anytime you regret having shared something, take a note of it, and reflect on why you feel this way.
Seek Feedback: People you trust and who want to see you grow and succeed can help you by providing honest feedback. Do they feel you overshared? Hearing their point of view can be useful for your progress. Nurturing honest communication in friendships will also contribute to building true and caring relationships.
